People all have unpleasant or even truly devilish 'I's but they must be awake to them and not identify with them, not think that this is their I. One must say: "This is not really me." The Work teaches that we have Real I in us, which is far from most of us, and yet the Work says we all have a trace of it. How many of you have had the ever-recurring experience of losing what you call your temper with someone that you care for and then feeling that you ought to seek forgiveness? This kind of forgiveness is not much good. What you have to do is to see that certain 'I's emerged and you gave way to them on the stage of your limited consciousness. You put the feeling of I into these 'I's which are always bitter and negative, waiting in the wings to emerge on the stage. The idea that we are not one but many 'I's can begin to transform your relationships to one another. Instead of becoming pointed, so to speak, you become broad. Instead of being bound up in an artificial packet you will distribute your feeling of yourself over a wider area and therefore you will become gentler--first to yourself and then to other people. Be gentle to yourself consciously first of all. So this transforming idea which is only one among many that could be mentioned as psycho-transforming is very important. It dissolves away some of your wrong self-valuation. It softens you, it relaxes you. Remember that from the senses you would not guess this idea of Man or Woman not being one. I mean, that life as Neutralizing Force that exhibits us to one another as single fat or thin bodies does not give you this power which comes from the Work-ideas as Neutralizing Force, which make you think differently, conceive differently, and have new attitudes to one another. So perhaps you will begin to see that psycho-transformism means calling the ideas of the Work into your daily duties and reactions and seeing the Work point of view instead of the life point of view. A man is not his body: a woman is not her body. But via the senses it looks so.