It is helpful to have someone 'give' this exercise to you, but reading it will suffice. It is usually done with eyes closed.

Start by seeing, in your mind's eye, yourself and, at some distance, a horse. Notice the condition and demeanor of this horse.

Pull from your pocket the juiciest, most delicious red apple you have ever tasted and offer it to this horse. Make eye contact as the horse receives the apple; wait for a message from the horse (If you are giving the exercise, wait for a change in the bodymind). This message will likely not be in words.

Notice how you feel and how your relationship to the horse has changed.

Repeat often; substitute carrots etc., or grooming, riding or other things the horse needs.

Externally consider the horse as you are able. Feel what it is like to have some idiot pulling the reins; the maladjusted bridle and bit; wrong mounting of the harness to the horse; the harness holding the shafts too tight or loose; the shafts attached wrongly to the cart and the cart which itself is in bad repair. People shouting from all angles in a language completely unfamiliar. And always the whip. These are all things the horse must deal with in the best of conditions. In worse conditions there is no adequate food, hooves are cracked, flies are biting, diseases, etc. There is always this nagging feeling that you are going nowhere.

As the exercise progresses over time, try making adjustments, always waiting for a message from the horse. Do not go too fast; the horse needs time to develop a relationship with you!